Thursday, March 19, 2015

no time for a bully

Today, around 9am, I was bashed on social media. Not just myself, but my business. And not just my business, but my chosen business branding and practices. If you are not a photographer, you may not understand how this could happen. Although you don't need to be in this business to recognize a bully.

The bully in this situation is a man who is a seasoned, professional, well-respected photographer in my community. He owns a studio a few miles away from me. I've actually discussed with him the possibilities of renting his studio once in awhile since I don't normally need one for my business practices. This man has been in the business for years and is old enough to be my father. For some reason, today, he felt threatened by me.

I will not go into anymore detail over the conversation that took place. What I will go over is how cut-throat and scary this business can be. The situation that took place today was not the first time I have seen this community horrendously bully someone. It happens all over social media, several times a day. It's just never hit so close to home.

It's amazing how quickly you find out who is in your corner and who isn't. It's impressive that in a city of more than half a million people, the competition is so brutal that grown adults feel the need to belittle each other. To voice an opinion that they are, in some way, better than you. That since you are a mother, they are better than you. And since you choose to use a different form of marketing, they are better than you. And since you have less years in the market, they are better than you. And by owning and using an iPhone everyday, you are somehow less of a professional.

When I first began, I had no clue what I was getting into. I just thought "Hey! I love taking pictures! I love working with people! I love crawling around chasing kids and making them smile! I love my art! I love that you love my art!" No more than that. It was fun. It was rewarding. It was (and always has been) my passion. And the best was that it paid my bills so that my husband could go back to school.

I am here to tell you, we all start somewhere. If you have been in business for 2 years, I am PROUD of YOU. If you have been in business for 40 years, I am PROUD of YOU. If you are wanting to break into this business and take your passion a step further, I am PROUD of YOU. I WANT you to succeed. I NEED you to succeed. We, as professional photographers, need to stick together. We need to show others what this profession is all about. This profession is about CREATING. It is about loving what you create. It is about the pride associated with each shutter click.

Why is our community tearing each other apart? Can we not lift each other up and help develop our peers so that we can all thrive? Is it impossible to think that we may encourage someone to succeed, even though they may live down the street? Can we not communicate with those artists whom may or may not have a similar clientele? Are you scared a client of yours might like someone elses work better? Are you nervous that someone else is taking a different approach than you? 

STOP BEING A BULLY. Just stop. It is getting you nowhere. And when you throw it all out there on social media, you make an ass out of yourself ('private' group or not, people are seeing it). When you publicly shame one photographer, you are shaming the entire community. You are taking the fun out of the work, and I'm not just going to roll over and allow that to happen. When you see these things happening on social media (whether it is photography related or not), STAND UP for what you know to be right.

If you are attempting to break into the business, have been doing this for a few years, or have been doing this for your entire life, I am MORE than happy to answer ANY questions you may have. I will not judge you. I will not judge your work. I will not discourage you in any way, and I most certainly will never belittle you. I will, and do, encourage the individuals in my photography world to push further, do better, and never stop learning. You're amazing. Don't ever forget that.

Now, turn to social media and go build someone up. I'll leave this pretty here for you ;)



Monday, March 2, 2015

Kentuckiana's Biggest Baby Fair

Over the weekend, I participated in a fabulous local event and I wanted to share a few of the other vendors who were there with me. On a day-to-day basis, Louisville sometimes feels huge. Then you step into a room and suddenly you feel like you've seen all of these faces before. That's the feeling that makes me know Louisville is my forever home.

The event was hosted by Heartland Music Together and The Mommy Nest, a non-profit group designed to help and support local families with young children. This group is not just for play-date matchmaking and much needed adult interaction, but they also give back to our community in a huge way with their Storking program. Members are able to nominate families who may need a little extra help with diapers, grocery shopping, cards with encouraging messages, cooked meals, formula, or even just a night out. Their current goal is to help 1-3 families per month, and I encourage you to visit their site to read more about it!

Have a look at the links below. So many fabulous people, small business owners, and vendors under one roof!

I know I'm missing several of you, so if you are reading this, PLEASE comment below and I will happily add your link to the list!

Baptist Health Louisville
The Diaper Fairy
Thirty-One Gifts
Happy Family Organic Superfoods
Birth Care Network
Intact Kentucky
Louisville Kids Fair
Heartland Music Together
Kentuckiana Babywearers
Infant Swimming Resource
Personal Opinion, Inc
CPR Solutions of Louisville
Petite Princess Parties
ICAN of Louisville
Placenta Encapsulation by Julia Pickett
Louisville Mothers of Twins Club
Milk and Baby
Full Circle Holistic
Paint It Sweet

 And now, for the goodness that you really visit for...